When someone thinks “how did that person get over a traumatic even so easily?” that person that gets over that even quickly might have good resilience. Merriam Webster defines resilience as an “ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change.” Resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress (American Psychological Association, 2011) Resilience is what one would use if you have a loss in your family Many people react to these situations with a flood of strong emotions and uncertainty.
Many studies show that the primary factor in resilience is having caring and supportive relationships within and outside the family. Relationships that create love and trust, provide role models and offer encouragement and reassurance help bolster a person’s resilience (American Psychological Association, 2011). The single most important element that stops folks from reaching the full potential, from achieving greatness and that robs people of the happiness someone deserves is unresolved problems (Pelzer 2008 p.11). In other words, people who didn’t fully deal with and get rid of the problems these people developed this habit of being oblivious, and procrastinating in situations, and clinging to past lives, the preteen and teenage years (Pelzer 2008 p.11).
Children can also use resilience. Marilyn Price-Mitchell a researcher, and Fellow at the Institute for Social Innovation at Fielding Graduate University says that “Research has since established resilience as essential for human thriving, and ability necessary for the development of healthy, adaptable young people. It’s what enables children to emerge from challenging experiences with a positive sense of themselves and their futures.
Children who develop resilience are better able to face disappointment, learn from failure, cope with loss, and adapt to change. We recognize resilience in children when we observe their determination, grit, and perseverance to tackle problems and cope with the emotional challenges of school and life.” resilience is not something that people can be born with It is something a person will have to learn as they grow The road to resilience comes first and foremost from children’s supportive relationships with parents, teachers, and other caring adults(Price-Mitchell 2015).
Resilience is about getting through the hardships in life and disappointment but there are ways someone can gain more resilience. Resilience is not something someone can gain overnight and it’s not easy to gain it takes time, research continues to uncover what resilient people do as they persist after missteps, accidents, and trauma( Psychology Today). Harold Cohen a private therapist says “Building better resilience takes time, effort, commitment, and focus. It will not just happen to you overnight. It’s a process that will take months to learn and master. Don’t be frustrated by this, because unlike your eye color or height, resilience is not a trait but rather a skill that you can readily enhance with patience and training.”
Resilience is a really important thing to think about when people go through these hardships in life. when someone does something wrong in life its ok, psychology today says that “To fail is deeply human as is the capacity to inspect, learn from, and transcend failure. Ultimately, failures are the stumbling blocks on the proverbial path to success: The lessons they teach have implications for humility, maturity, and empathy.” no one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes and does things some people regret bu just remember no matter the situation everyone is still