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AGD Marriage is a legal union of man and wife. In this day and age, there are two different ideas of marriage. The first being a marriage based on love, and the second; a marriage arranged by a third party which is usually the parents. Although an arranged marriage differs from a marriage based on love in the after marriage life and husband-wife relationship, the principal differences lie in mate selection and social implications. For Indian American Kavita Das, however, arranged marriage in India is not how one perceives it to be. She was matchmade by a friend in Oregon and not by her family. There are various possible advantages and disadvantages when it comes to arranged marriages. It is believed that parents are more experienced and objective than their children when it comes to making a better choice for an acceptable mate. The idea of parents finding a compatible mate is not always true, however, according to Pallavi Reddy. Parents often arrange marriages because doing so will ensure that their child stays vigilant in their religious beliefs. Although some parents sometimes understand if their children do not favor their paired mate, they still might feel pressured to get married. Children entangled in the web of arranged marriages can lead to fear and resentment. Other parents may exile or disown their children if they refuse. An arranged marriage is a contract between families, but not between individuals.
Arranged marriages are a complex subject, and the concept is perceived as a human rights issue where individuals loose the right to freedom of choice. Parents who favor arranged marriages believe that they are more experienced and objective than their children when it comes to finding a mate. They believe they can make better, less impulsive choices regarding a compatible, and often financially supportive mate than their child will. Parents believe that arranged marriages can be more thriving, flourishing, and long-lasting compared to love marriages. The idea of parents being able to find more compatible mates for their children is not always true, however. For CNN writer, Pallavi Reddy, her experience with arranged marriage was not the most pleasant. Her parents wanted to arrange her marriage and although she would avoid the subject, Reddy finally gave in to go on a date with the potential to make her parents content. She did not feel any connection with Raj and the only thing they shared in common was their heritage. She felt as if she had to put on a facade of somebody completely different. After refusing the marriage, Reddy discussed her decision with her parents which they understood and trusted her judgment. It is a hit or miss when it comes to the idea of arranged marriages and parents do not always choose the correct partner for their children.
There are various reasons as to why parents believe arranged marriages benefit the situation of finding a mate. Parents often arrange marriages because doing so will ensure that their child stays vigilant in their religious beliefs. Indian tradition is crucial to their society and arranged marriage is part of historical Indian culture. People from different cultures often see freedom of religion as a threat and are afraid of the varying views in Western societies. In a recent study of Indians 18 to 34, almost 60 percent of the married women surveyed didn’t work, and 41 percent of respondents either fully or somewhat agreed with the statement of “It’s not right for women to work after marriage.” In the 70 years of India’s independence, cultural norms of marriage haven’t changed all that much. These women ultimately have a choice over their prospective male, they end up feeling under a lot of pressure to get married. Ritu states, “It’s not about what I am for or what is expected out of me. I know I have to do it. I know I have to get married.” Although Pallavi Reddy’s parents understood her choice of not getting married, she still feels pressured to get married after the attempt of arranged marriage. Indian tradition is important to many, but arranged marriage might be an exception.
In conclusion, the arranged marriage is a contract between families, but not between individuals. There are various advantages and disadvantages when it comes to the idea of arranged marriages. Parents often arrange marriages because doing so will ensure that their child stays vigilant in their religious beliefs. Although some parents sometimes understand if their children do not favor their paired mate, they still might feel pressured to get married.