No matter what others might say, we all have the right to the pursuit of happiness. Happiness and tranquility in life is the purpose and the basic right of a human being. Some individuals should not have married each other if they do not feel comfortable. Often, results came in the shape of divorce. In the end, the child gets suffered, and his life becomes miserable.
Divorce is more specifically a legal action between two married couples for terminating/ending their relationship. Every year, thousands of Canadian children get suffered due to their parent’s divorce. According to statistical data published by Anon (2007), it has been figured out that about 2.64 million people have obtained legal divorce within the year gap of 2000-2007 in Canada. The intensifications in divorce rates have been among the most noticeable features of family change in recent decades. Some have observed this as a sign of moral and social disruption with the potential to destroy society’s foundations and shatter the family institution itself. Others have revealed divorces as signaling suffocating social mores and increased individual liberty. Despite these facts, some theorists are contradicting this perspective on the detrimental impacts of divorce. They profoundly claim that divorce became obligatory when two couples are not happy with each other. They consider divorce as a predicament for child relief who is experiencing depression and negativity due to an unhealthy relationship between parents. The problem lies in the difference of child upbringing by both a mother and a father or the child rise by a single parent. Despite different approaches, it can be observed that divorce is one of the most profound life events and can cause major upheaval and stress in Child’s life. Family instability and divorce have attracted wide attention among social philosophers and scientists. In the context of this paper, many arguments contributing to the viable causes behind obtaining a divorce were mentioned. Moreover, the notion of divorce’s effect on Child development was also the scope of this study.
Despite the emphasis made by social scientists and theorists to shape our knowledge regarding divorce, there is no viable reason present for why people divorce? It is because divorce is not happening due to one factor, many factors contribute to it. Moreover, it cannot be predicted on the day when the people bind in a marriage relationship. Relevant to different studies regarding the profound causes of divorce and their effect on child development, this article is presenting several resonating prospectives pertinent to that.
The most predominant cause of divorce is the independence of women. Over the years, it has been observed that women’s independence is a primitive reason which influenced divorce. Ermisch (1986) also supported this perspective and perceived that divorce often happens when women had the practice of following their own career and working, despite they understand its negative consequences on the child. This swayed a women’s earning capability and gave considerable risk to her marital life, especially in the presence of other problems as well. Hence it can be concluded that many women lingered in marriage just because they had no other way but to do so having no economical opportunities and earning power to become independent from their spouses. In other words, Divorce between martial couples often affected their total income which is one of the common reasons why many couples bind in a marriage relation just to prevent this from occurring. The second most prevalent cause of divorce is the economic factor. It is the core of every evil in society. Personally, it has been observed that most couples are stuck in financial strains and could not compensate against the daily expenditures due to unemployment or inadequate financial resources. In the end, they finally end up their marriages with divorce or separation and the child get suffered emotionally. Besides these, lack of education, social skills, and poor intellectual skills are also responsible for the divorce. Noticeably, education makes a man initiate the responsibilities applicable to sustain a happy life. However, lack of education makes couples sway away from their marriage obligations and shatter their marriage relations, which also impacts child’s developmental abilities and pose him to experience emotional traumas such as frustration, embarrassment, fear of rejection, concern about being cared for, maturity, regression, or any physical symptoms. According to Morin (2019), “There is a fear of rejection. If my parents can stop loving each other, can they stop loving me?’ There is fear of the future: ‘What will happen to me now?’ There is fear of abandonment: If my parents can leave each other, they can also leave me.’ ‘In the face of these uncertainties, a child may regress by acting more immature and dependent to receive more attention and caretaking support.” Pertinent to the above causes, substance abuse and alcoholism also contribute to producing problems in marriage. These risk behaviors are strongly related to marriage dissimilation for both sexes. Moreover, these risk behaviors can also make a married couple less dedicated towards familial life, due to which child development becomes a hamper.
Contrary to the above discussion, several theorists are suggesting that divorce is a sensible decision when the married couples do not fit together. They suggested that divorce is beneficial and necessary when marriage relations do not really work in providing relief to children. Staying together for the sake of a child does not always necessary. This argument upholds that divorce among parents does not harm children, who in fact engage in delinquent and violent acts whilst cohabiting with their miserable parents in a violent atmosphere. The Journal of Youth and Adolescence further argues that Kids are likely to experience anger, distress, disbelief, and anxiety. But many children also seem to bounce back. They grow comfortable with their own standards and get used to changes in their daily routines. In now a day’s society, many children have grown up to become successful and emotionally stable whether they had two or one parents to show them the rocky path that life confers upon all human beings. However, they didn’t really give concentration to the fact that some children, who are rejected and deprived by their parents, never really seem to go back to their normal state. Divorced parents and children are constantly struggling to somehow compensate for their agonies; however, they experience a constant trauma. This large percentage of children may encounter ongoing, possibly even prolong life problems after their parents’ divorce. It may give rise to increase child behavior problems, poor academic performance, and more vulnerability to mental health problems such as continues stress, traumas, and depression. However, despite the arguments that are in favor of divorce, some other questions could emerge in one’s mind, countering supportive arguments regarding parent’s divorce; What role would stepsiblings and stepparents play? Does a child need the supports of both parents? Does a boy need a father or mother figure around? Does the government provide help for abandoned and rejected children? What people must recognize is that properly raising a child does not depend on the structure and composition of a family but should be more focused and concentrated on the values or processes that are taught to these children as they learn to mature. Children of divorced parents can be just as progressive with social, emotional, and behavioral skills as those married parents. The answer to these questions lies on only one answer that the only pathway for children to gain full behavioral and emotional skills is to be raised by both a father and a mother. Moreover, children can also begin to act up in education, and become disobedient towards authority, which tantamount to grades dropping.
This paper presented several arguments regarding the causes of divorce and its effect on child development. Despite the reasonable circumstances where divorce becomes the last option in pursuit of short-term happiness, the aspect of a healthy and profound relationship should be considered. Parents should understand the consequences of divorce and its long terms effect on a child’s psychological, cognitive, and behavioral development. Parents should give a chance to love and understanding. Moreover, respect provision to each other feelings and obligations are necessary to sustained long term relationship. Sharing the reasons before the conflict can reinforce the atmosphere of healthy relations.